found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom
not just anyone
Be a selfish bitch.
Don’t feel bad for going after what you want.
Do that shit on your own fucking terms.
Hold a middle finger up to anyone who puts you down.
Wear what you want.
Do what you want.
Worry about yourself being good before anyone else.
Live life to the fucking fullest.
You run you.
You paint your own damn masterpiece.
Never fucking forget that.
well, i don’t know the circumstances of your relationship, sunshine. believe it or not, i actually really suck at relationships myself (which is why I’m not in one), but i guess you should put yourself first this time and see how your well-being is. if your boyfriend fails at making you feel 100%, maybe you should work on that yourself. it isn’t someone’s duty to make you feel like a princess/prince. it is your own.
and when you’ve figured out (genuinely) if YOU are happy as a person (note that this will take some time to figure out!), make a decision for your relationship. consistency is very important. you can’t be in a partnership with someone who will give and take away the world from you. i learned this from personal experience.
remember that it is okay to be selfish if it is for your own well-being.
good luck, love!
there’s a flower coming out of my head and I swear it’s not a metaphor